Some men are funny creatures when it comes to what they are looking for in a longterm partner.  They seem to be quite happy to have ‘slept around’ themselves, yet they don’t like the idea of their girlfriend/life partner/wife having an extensive sexual history.  The thing is, if these men have been sleeping with many different women, then from which pool of women, who have not had an extensive sexual history, are they choosing said longterm relationships?  Men, you need to get a grip!  If it’s acceptable for you to have had many sexual partners, then it’s absolutely fine for us women to have had the same.  Provided it has not been through force.

Well, of course I’m bringing this conversation back to what’s been on everyone’s minds, televisions, smartphones, tablets, etcetera, over the last couple months.  What do you expect?  Talk about something different, because you are all getting bored with the topic?

Oh, welcome to our world……the one in which we have been living for centuries.  You don’t think women are flipping out over the boredom we feel?  Boredom over the fact that we have been fighting this issue for decades.  Who would have thought that, in 2017, this would still be a battle we are faced with on a daily basis?  It’s a bit different now, however, because, while we have been courageous enough to reveal the truth, we are now threatened with the backlash of actually standing up and speaking up for ourselves.  So I have some questions…..

We are now having to justify our anger to some of you?  We are now being accused of putting men in a position whereby they don’t know how to act around women anymore?  Our cause is up for criticism because there are some women who might lie and make stories up about men, for the sole purpose of ruining their lives?  Men are so nervous around us that they are going to stop including us in business opportunities, for fear of us accusing them of sexual assault? (An actual discussion on BBC World Service, BTW!)

Oh, and just to really bring the attention back to men, some are saying, “Men get sexually abused by women also!”  As if to imply that women don’t care about every single person who is abused.  Of course we do!  Advocating one huge cause such as ours in no way implies that we are therefore excluding all other problems!  That said, the number of girls and women who have been sexually abused far outweighs the number of men.  The misogyny towards girls and women all over the world, throughout history and in present times, is second to none.  So, we fight for girls and women.  We fight against sexual harassment, molestation, abuse and assault.  We fight for our freedom because men simply will not stop.  Not only are you not stopping, you are pissed that we are demanding that you stop.  You are flinging insults about us deserving the abuse because of the way we dress.  You are flinging insults about us deserving to be raped because we like sex (CONSENSUAL SEX is what we like!).

The sad truth is, some women don’t even like consensual sex.  When you grow up getting raped, repeatedly, you get to the point whereby you might feel numb to sex.  You’ve been raped so many times that you’ve blocked off any emotion inside of you.  Possibly, you roll with a sexual situation, because that might be the only way to save yourself from getting physically hurt.

When women are called promiscuous, it is hurtful to us.  No one really knows another person’s situation and what’s happened to them.  If it is because we have been sexually assaulted countless times, who are you to judge?  If it because we willingly choose to be sexually active, why are you even concerned?  Surely it’s a better situation when women are in a position whereby we have freely and happily chosen to have sex rather than to have been raped and forced into feeling like damaged goods?  #StandUpSpeakUp #MeToo